Utilitarian friendships are not friendships

Main Idea: Utilitarian friendships are not friendships and are not God-centered, for God IS love. When we start counting friends like contacts or befriending with ulterior motives, then we ought to beware.

God is love. This divine attribute is an identity rather than a characteristic. God does not merely have love; God is love. Love is outward-facing, seeking to give rather than to take. It intends another's good. So, when we are God-centered, love permeates us. Being God-centered, then, is to be other focused rather than self-focused.

Watching for signs. Given the characteristics of God-centered relationships, utilitarian “friendships” should have visible warning signs. A recent conversation about evangelism provides some examples. If we speak of how many souls we have won, that's a warning sign. Christ wins souls. We plant the seeds and water them. If we befriend someone just so we can witness to them, that's a warning sign.

Friendships should never be utilitarian.

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